Getting dumped is a horrible experience, and learning how to get back together with your ex can seem like the only thing that matters. Take a breather and use the 5-step approach outlined in this article for getting back together with your ex.
The first and most important thing to do after you've been dumped is to take a breather. It might feel like acting immediately to get back together is critical, but acting from emotion without thinking clearly and following a plan is a bad idea. You and your ex both need time to cool off from whatever arguments and problems you've had. You both need space right now if you're ever going to get back together. Take at least a few days, but longer is better. A week apart, including no phone calls or text messages to each other, does wonders. When you talk to your ex again at the end of the week, you may find that both of you have cooled off and that a little space was all you needed to fix the problem.
The second step is contacting your ex. There could still be hurt feelings or unresolved issues that need to be addressed if you want to be a couple again. The first phone call after your "break" from each other is a critical time to discover how your ex is feeling. Start the conversation in a caring way. Be genuine and sincere as you ask how they have been. Ask about their family, friends, school projects, or hobbies. After you've established a kind tone for the conversation, you can begin to find out what the best way to get back together is.
The third step is to let your ex know how you feel. Start with a simple (but not overbearing) statement about how you feel. Something short and to the point, such as "I've missed hearing you tell me about your day" or "It's good to hear your voice again" is perfect.
Fourth, gently inquire if there was something in particular that caused the breakup, and if there is anything you can do to make up for it. Of course the breakup was not 100% your fault; it takes two people to break up. But taking the first step and saying "I'm sorry" for the past will soften your ex's heart and move you toward reconciliation.
Last of all, it's best that this first conversation doesn't last too long. Don't force the issue of getting back together. The best thing to say is something like, "This week is really busy but I'll talk to you when the weekend comes" or "I'm going on vacation until Sunday. Can I talk to you when I get back?" This gives your ex a time frame to expect and lets them know how long they have to think about you until talking to you again.
This gentle 5-step approach is really the best way to get back together with your ex. Respecting your ex's space and then carefully planning what you will say and how you will say it during your first conversation is key in getting back together.
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